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10 Things I’ve Learned After Divorcing a Narcissist

Where I Am Now- One Year Later Its been a year now, after divorcing a narcissist, and Its the strangest feeling ever. I’m sorry for being silent for so long, I just needed space to get through this last part without trying to explain it to anyone. Im doing really well, I have a great job, a great financial footing, a great direction and I’m in a happy, healthy relationship. I feel like I’ve left the pain behind me, and taken the lessons. Sometimes it feels like it happened to someone else, and I guess in a way it did....
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19 Things to Remember when Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

19 Things to Remember when Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse I am almost three months into my divorce process and the time and space have done amazing things to heal my heart and soul. I will admit, things have been much easier for me than I expected. I got a great job right away, which is gradually ramping up my hours so I have time to adjust and get my finances in order before I get off government assistance. I have all the support I need from my family and Im living with my parents, which, while...
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Walking Away From a Narcissist

I moved out last week. It feels surreal to even write that. It was like walking out of a hurricane and landing on a quiet beach. I can breathe now. And it’s crazy because I didn’t expect that. I totally expected to be in a tornado of emotion and panic, to be scrambling and worried and defensive and angry. I am none of those things. Maybe the tidal wave will still hit me, but I really don’t think so. I think I finally realized what I was allowing in my life, and that I didn’t need it anymore. I finally...
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An Open Letter To My Abusive Husband…

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Things were bad right from the start, but I was too young and naive to see it. That’s why you picked me, isn’t it? I was so trusting, and innocent. I had no idea you were broken, no idea our relationship wasn’t normal. I believed you when you told me I was messing up, and I didn’t question you. You could control me, keep me at arms length, and enjoy all the effort I gave into making our “relationship” a success. And then, one day, I started to notice. Notice how controlling you are, how you turned everything I had...
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Narcissist- Just a Big Baby

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Narcissist- Just a Big Baby I think, in reading about narcissism all over the web, that we have significantly blurred the lines between psychopathy and narcissism, and see them as the same. Certainly there are many psychopathic narcissists, but a lot of them are just people that were broken as kids and never grew up. Does this make them less damaging? Absolutely not. but i think it helps those who have been victimized to let it go and move on with their lives when they realize they are essentially dealing with an emotionally handicapped individual. its not that they choose...
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Where I’m at…Forgiving a Narcissist

Where I’m At… So, I realize I haven’t posted in a while, and there’s a reason for that. Its not anything terrible, actually the opposite. I have realized that while at the beginning of this blog, writing about my feelings, writing about how horrible he’s been to me, was helpful and cathartic, it actually became really depressing and made me feel worse. I have set aside the past, I don’t want to think about it, I don’t want to live there anymore. I want to move forward and live my life. They say, don’t look back, your not going there, I...
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