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Same Sh*t, Different Day

So, he finally asked me about my taxes today, and was predictably pissed when I told him I claimed one of the kids. Gave me this whole long speech about what if “we” could have gotten more money by him filing and claiming both kids.   At the end of the argument, he stalked off in a huff and told me “I’m sure glad I’m a part of your life!”. This is a tactic. He does things on his own all the time and since I didn’t ask permission to claim one of the kids and he wont get as...
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Documenting Narcissistic Abuse

Documenting Narcissistic Abuse
Documenting Narcissistic Abuse One of the most important things you can do when preparing to leave an abusive relationship is documenting the abuse your going through. This is critical for a couple reasons:  #1, If you end up in court then you will have something to support your word against his. #2, After your gone you will have something solid to reference when the narc either tries to hoover you back in or continues to gaslight you.  (For the purposes of this article I will be using the pronoun him to refer to the abuser. Feel free to insert whatever...
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Narcissist- Just a Big Baby

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Narcissist- Just a Big Baby I think, in reading about narcissism all over the web, that we have significantly blurred the lines between psychopathy and narcissism, and see them as the same. Certainly there are many psychopathic narcissists, but a lot of them are just people that were broken as kids and never grew up. Does this make them less damaging? Absolutely not. but i think it helps those who have been victimized to let it go and move on with their lives when they realize they are essentially dealing with an emotionally handicapped individual. its not that they choose...
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25 Signs Your Husband is Cheating

  25 Signs Your Husband is Cheating There is probably a million indications that someone is cheating. Everyone and every situation is different. And honestly, when taken individually, single things may not be that big of a deal. I would say, when your spouse is cheating, your gut is your first clue. Something is off and its not just the big fight you just had about nothing, there is something else. In my experience, we have always been rather relaxed, I have never really kept tabs on him or really mistrusted him in any way. So imagine my shock when...
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Tips for Surviving the Holidays with a Narcissist

Surviving the Holidays with a Narcissist
Surviving the Holidays with a Narcissist ~Made it! Christmas is over, and I don’t feel wrecked after the holiday. Sure, it was a little disappointing, as usual. In fact, I have been reflecting and reading others experiences today, and Christmas has gotten progressively more depressing ever since I got engaged. Oddly, I always blamed it on working retail and being insanely busy in December, or not having the money to really celebrate and do gifts like I would like to. But after this Christmas, I realize, that’s not what makes it sad for me. Its the simple fact that I...
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Narcissistic Entitlement

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So, hes been taking money and spending it on a personal trainer (to the tune of several hundred dollars a month) and telling me his trainer was training him for free since they’re such good buddies and all. (And texting me selfies of him flexing in the mirror, WTF?). The entire time, hes been putting all this pressure on me to try and make more money and do all this extra stuff so we can get ski passes, and telling me how we just don’t have any money, etc. And hes eating out at lunch, no $5 meal for him,...
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19 Signs You’re Married to a Narcissist

Married to a Narcissist ~ *(I am not a psychologist, I have experience with this situation and I am sharing from that and my own research. I have approached this from a females perspective, as that is what I am and what I have been dealing with in my husband). It’s been said that narcissism is one of the most difficult mental disorders to diagnose, for a few reasons; first, Narcissists tend to believe there is nothing wrong with them, so they do not admit to having problems and don’t seek help in the first place. Second, they are masters at...
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How to Live with a Narcissist

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How to Live with a Narcissist- Turns out, its not as easy as I thought. Also, once you stop dancing to the narcissists manipulations, they don’t necessarily give up, they just start whining about how you don’t love them anymore, and aren’t trying to make your relationship work. In addition, once you stop freaking out when the narcissist threatens to leave you, they start trying to make YOU leave, i.e. kick you out. I quote, “you just need to leave for a couple days and then you’ll realize that I love you”. Really?! Ugh, I don’t think so. He really thinks that once I...
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Thats Why I Stayed

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In the Dark Its funny, I have been discovering more about narcissism and trying to really see my situation for over a year now, and I still seem to feel like I know hardly anything about what I’m up against and how much I am losing. And its not because I am leaving (though he doesn’t know that), its because of him, and his behavior. Spending 12 years thinking we were a team has left me totally vulnerable to his destruction of my life. My credit sucks because he cant manage money AT ALL, and blames me for it. Granted, his...
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