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Where I’m at…Forgiving a Narcissist

Where I’m At… So, I realize I haven’t posted in a while, and there’s a reason for that. Its not anything terrible, actually the opposite. I have realized that while at the beginning of this blog, writing about my feelings, writing about how horrible he’s been to me, was helpful and cathartic, it actually became really depressing and made me feel worse. I have set aside the past, I don’t want to think about it, I don’t want to live there anymore. I want to move forward and live my life. They say, don’t look back, your not going there, I...
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How to Manipulate A Narcissist

How to Manipulate a Narcissist ~ Surviving in a Narcissistic Relationship This isn’t the post I started out writing. In fact, I began by writing a several hundred word tirade about how the Narc is acting like the poor hurt puppy in this narcissistic relationship and how dare he, after all he’s done. Then, I had to take kid one to school and came home again, a little mellowed out. The Narc apologized (hah) and I got to doing some research. I found my answer from others who have lived with Narcs longer than even I have, children of narcissistic parents (my...
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8 Self Care Tips

One of the things I have noticed is as time has gone on and I have been subjected to the Narcissist, I have kind-of given up on myself. There was a time my nails were buffed, my hair stayed neatly cut and dyed, my legs were waxed or shaved. I don’t really take the time to take care of myself at all anymore, but I’m trying to start back up. These things are essential for us as women to feel like we matter! I do understand however, that suddenly getting all glammed up can be a problem for women in...
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Complex PTSD

So, I stumbled across a fun little tidbit the other day, apparently, Complex PTSD actually changes the physical characteristics of your brain. I have been reeling a little from this, and also re-examining the way I view my relationship and the name I’m giving the abuse he is inflicting on me. I mean, technically, he is changing my physical being in a hateful way, so is that not then, physical abuse? The research did study soldiers, not the victims of abusive partners, and having never been in actual war zones, I cannot compare our experiences, though I would imagine their is much...
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